Be Your Own Girl Crush

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Wearing: Wolford Leafage Triangle Bra (75C)

Do you remember that blog post from Monday? The one where I went on and on about how tired I was? If not, read it here. Welp, two days later I am here to say that was probably not the best of ideas (maybe it's because I am so out of shape). Yesterday, I woke a croaked neck and in so much pain. And of course, the only position my neck was comfortable looked like I was eavesdropping on everyone's conversation. So embarrassing, to say the least.

Even worse. I tried to take another HIIT class, but the pain was too unbearable. My ass walked right on out. Pretty sure the last time I walked out of a workout early I was in high school craving Chinese food. Perhaps this might be the universe telling me it's time to kick my ass into high gear. Seeing Pilates is a lot easier on the body, I thought it was a better workout to ease myself into with this croaked neck and all. So I booked myself another 5 am class at Studio MDR. No excuses, even after a few cocktails. Summer is coming, and I have all of these bikinis to try out.

But today is Wednesday, and we're here to talk girl crushes. To honor someone in the lingerie industry which is totally badass and making a difference in this world. Well, it kind of dawned on me, we're all women in the industry. We are the ones buying and wearing it, right? So, I brought it to Instagram and asked, do you have a crush on yourself?

This is such a meaningful conversation for all human beings. Because hey, it's you and you until the very end. If you don't love yourself, it's going to be a long and painful road. And if we're being honest here, you're not going to attract the right people or 'tribe.' Doesn't seem like a very fun life, right?

So how does one go about loving themselves?

For starters, you START.

Start listening to yourself. If you're not happy with your job, location, or lifestyle; ask yourself what steps you can make to get yourself into a place you love? I am a firm believer that location plays a huge part to your vibe. If you're not one for the cold weather, maybe living in Chicago isn't the best place for you. Why stay through the cold and dreary winters? Get yourself down to Miami or even Los Angeles.

My life changed dramatically after only two weeks of living in Los Angeles. It was like a switch went off in my brain. The sunshine and warm weather really just made me glow. I was, happy.

Also, you should take inventory of the people around you. Who do you surround yourself with the most? What do they bring to you? What do you bring to them? Is this a person that motivates you to be the best version of yourself? Do you feel happy around this person? Does this person bring positivity to your life? I think we go through life thinking we need to have "lifelong friends." Sometimes, you get lucky and meet people at a young age who love and respect you and want the best for you. But sometimes that isn't the case. And you want to know a secret? Not every friendship is meant to last forever. That is a fact. Do not hold yourself back to make someone else happy. If they truly loved you, they wouldn't have held you back in the first place.

Are you in love with your body? I've got to say; this is a hard one for me. My views on this topic are pretty conflicting.

A part of me believes the body is a machine. What you give, is pretty much what you get. If you're in tuned to its needs and fuel it properly you'll have excellent results. On the other hand, who the fuck gets to decide these beauty standards? Like, can you please just let me live? But when it comes down to it, either approach is perfectly valid.

Maybe what I am trying to ask is; do you live up to your own beauty standards?

Launching The Lace Appeal has been such an eye-opening experience. Never in my life have I been body shamed before. I've talked about this before, but it just happened again, and I am still trying to adjust that this will be an ongoing issue. Clearly, seeing I call the bitches out every single time it's a trigger. I started listening to The Bitch Bible on my drive down to Los Angeles last week. If you're not sure what it is, it's a podcast hosted by Jackie Schimmel. It's fucking hilarious, by the way. Anyway, in one of her episodes, she was talking about how body shame and negative comments are a part of life; even more so when you put yourself in the spotlight. And I am here to say, that I am working on accepting this, to understand that some people are not going to like my body. Maybe I don't live up to their beauty standards. And that is okay because we are all entitled to our own opinion. Plain and simple.

Please understand that self-love is a never-ending journey. You're going to have ups and downs with a few detours along the way. Just when you think you've got it all figured out, you enter a new phase of life, and the process begins all over again. Sure, it's not easy. A lot of times you have to make sacrifices to make it all happen. As long as these needs aren't dangerous to yourself and others (this includes emotionally and physically), listen to yourself. But I promise it's worth it.

Xx

Melissa